January 19, 2010

Dallas Rowe
124 Fake Place
Sportstown, British Columbia
Canada V2A 1Q9

Mr. Kleats
Central High School
123 Main Street Sportstown, British Columbia
Canada V2A 1W3

Dear Mr. Kleats:

I have attended a number of my daughters, Daisy's athletic practices, and I have some concerns that I wish to make sure that you are aware of. As a father, I feel it my duty to give you feedback, so that your coaching ability is able reach its full potential.


During some of the practices I have attended, I frequently noticed the children are left unsupervised at the allotted start time. I would recommend that the children would receive beneficial results if you were able to provide coaching supervision throughout the practices. I also noticed that some of the children seem to be disorganized with skill development.

It is also noticeable that several of the children aren't given a equal amount of time on the field in comparison to others. I feel that this inequality is affecting their overall attitude on or off the field; which can be addressed by changing up the player rotations more often with the intent of making the game fun for all of the players not just a predetermined hand full. This would prove constructive to all of the players attitudes and more helpful in building teamwork among the players.

Sometimes Daisy does not seem to be having fun at her games as there is a large burden placed on her shoulders to win rather then trying to enjoy herself and play to her ability; I think you may be surprised how well children are capable of playing without being overly encouraged and allowing them to use their own abilities and skills to their advantage. There has also been an increased emphasis on overly encouraging the players to win rather then allowing them to perform without the pressure that is being currently placed on them.

Lastly it was discernible that a large amount of vulgar language is used while coaching the players, and I don't feel that there is a lot of positive reinforcement behind it that will help the players win games or work together efficiently.


I appreciate your time to read my concerns, I feel it is possible with a lot less effort than you may think our team can be made champions. I am sure that with any these changes in your coaching strategies there will be advantageous outcomes for all involved.

Sincerely, Dallas Rowe

Expository Essay, Certain events that mark the start of maturity.

In life you meet and have to surpass challenges making you more mature in each conceding step you take. There are major steps where each person meets these challenges and in each new problems arise to be conquered, if one is to fail these challenges they will ultimately not be able to cope with the everyday life of a married adult. Life presents itself in specific events barring its teeth at you begging for you to rise to meet the challenge, some of these challenges much less significant then others in the deciding factor of your ultimate success. Of these challenges two major hurdles present themselves with the greatest height, the commitment and responsibility that is required from yourself and another through marriage, and having your first child.

Approaching the hurdles of marriage, many will fumble over their own feet in the unpresidented amount of responsibility that is promptly burdened upon you. With the exception of couples that participate in a common law relationships and deal with their personal affairs seperately; there is a lot that is suddenly placed upon you, such as: bills, taxes, paperwork. If either partner fails to clear this hurdle the relationship will suffer considerably, as one partner has to take on more of the established duties that would have been shared in a normal instance of marriage. Worst yet a couple where both are unable to cope with the new found responsibilities learn to sink or swim the quickest, as they are struck repeatedly by the brutality of real life. Even if a balance is met both partners are endowed with a new sense of maturity as they have cleared one of life's many tests. Marriage being one of the toughest along with the conception of your first child and the responsibilities that are incidentally burden upon you.


What would be considered as the larger hurdle in the set that represents life, is the burden of another ones life that instead belongs to you and your partner. This is the point in life where many acknowledge their life was forever changed after child birth, as large amounts of responsibility is placed heavily upon you in the form of a "bundle of joy." Marriage you can hit rough patches and make mistakes and get past them, whereas bearing a child actually means to take care of another human beings life, not as meager as a contract between two people. A mistake made when it comes down to taking care of a child can be dire, as babies are delicate and unable to think proactively for themselves. Taking a life compared to breaking a contract is on two completely different levels thus the stress and responsiblity that comes tied with the "bundle of joy". Though this bundle will change your life completely and will force you to shape your life around a small child, forcing you to change your schedules and adapt them to that you can take proper care of the infant. If you are capable of conforming to all of these changes and rising to the challenge then you just may have cleared the largest hurdle in life and are heading straight and true to the finish line, which unfortuntely happens to be your death.


It is clear that life presents many challenges, many of which everyone will have to attempt to overcome at some point or another in their lifetime. Of which challenges two present themselves as being the most difficult to overcome as a change in maturity is forced instictively on each indivual to cope with the new found responsibilities. The two challenges are the contract one creates to another through marriage, and bearing a child and all of the implications and responsibilities that follow. It is also clear that if one fails to complete some of the challenges they will be unable to cope with much in life and ultimately unable to mature to their full potential.

Assess which passage, “The Most Powerful Question a Parent Can Ask..." or “Be-ers and Doers,” shows the more respectful approach.

Parenting is an acquired skill achieved usually at a early part of adulthood, or subliminally obtained from the false conception that reading a "How to Parent for Dummies" books will actually give you that skill. Two insightful passages into the world of parenting, a essay, "The Most Powerful Question a Parent Can Ask..." written by Neil Millar and the short story "Be-ers and Doers" by Budge Wilson. Both passages attack the common ground of disrespectful children and how to raise them to your ideals. Although both passages share a similar goal they both host completely different attack strategies one much more aggressive then the other. The short story's "Be-ers and Doers" ideal of parenting is put far out of reasonable proportion, it would be feasible to think that the essay "The Most Powerful Question a Parent Can Ask..." is a far more reasonable approach at parenting.

Although both passages host strategies that can overcome the difficulty of parenting, only the essay "The Most Powerful Question a Parent Can Ask..." written by Neil Millar shows a solution that is plausible in most of the situations parents face, where the "in your face" solution offered by "Be-ers and Doers" won't work in many settings with children and trying to shape them. The passage "The Most Powerful Question a Parent Can Ask..." presents a passive solution that can be applied in early childhood or later, leaving it to be extremely flexible. It encourages to "raise well-rounded, confident, considerate children that show gratitude and appreciation for all that is given to them and just a fraction of what you do for them." Unlike "Be-ers and Doers" this passage tries to hit a balanced ground of discipline, and emotional appeal; not over emphasize that the children have to work to get through life. It is key that the approach that "The Most Powerful Question a Parent Can Ask..." presents is so neutral to the development of the child versus trying to force them to outright change against their will, instead of trying to ease them into working without making it so much as a chore more of a duty that is established overtime.
In contrast the strategies suggested in the short story "Be-ers and Doers" by Budge Wilson demands that children conform to what you desire of them. The antagonist in the story was the mother who tried to force her child into becoming a "Doer" and not floundering around as a "Be-er". She was a person who needed a reason for everything and had to always be doing something not enjoying life, juxtaposed to his father who was a "Be-er" who was happy with a slower life, enjoying and basking in the moments. Though this is much more relaxed approach to life, she sees this as a threat and does not want to see her son grow up into a "Be-er" and aggressively attacks his way of life trying to enforce change rather then progressively nudge someone into changing. In the end he never changed because her strategy was to attack his personality rather then suggest, reason, and try and tell him the positives of doing something her way.


There is no doubt that in any case that anyone should select the parenting methods discussed in "The Most Powerful Question a Parent Can Ask.." are much more effective approach at parenting a child so they don't grow into "children [that] spend fifty percent of their free time surfing the net and talking in chat rooms and catch[ing] up on thirty hours of TV a week" while forcing you to slave over just mere children. Though more responsibility comes with having children there is no reason why someone should concede to their will, it is ductile and can be mended to your desire if you approach them about it with the right attitude; like the one displayed in "The Most Powerful Question a Parent Can Ask...". If you were to take on the offensive like in the short story "Be-ers and Doers" the child is likely to be resistant, making the whole effort overall ineffective. Giving no doubt that the more respectable approach at parenting is represented by Neil Millar and the essay, "The Most Powerful Question a Parent Can Ask..."